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Keyword: Emotional Baggage
We are blessed with a new knowledge of the brain and our behavior. Nowadays it’s basic stuff. We know that nearly all that goes on inside our bodies also happens outside of our consciousness; our body’s recall of what previously happened makes this possible. Because of our body and mind’s complexity, we have ended up living in a sphere of limited awareness based on memories of feelings.
Memories make up the secret sauce to the vast neurological network that creates and maintains us. They saturate our being at the divine, the quantum, and the physical levels.
But our memories are status quo and homeostasis machines. Our memories do not like change; they want to keep every little thing the same no matter what. This is not to say we should not respect and honor this vital force. Better yet, be in love with them! Be kind to your memories for all they do for you. Keep in mind though, driven by the familiar, memories can act like the playground bully and will do all they can to keep you locked in the past with no control of your future. They are not afraid of using a fear of this past to intimidate you, imprison your outlook, and take away your future. That is what painful memories are all about. We too often keep ourselves in pain only because it is habitual and seemingly safe. You can work around this bully by objectifying your memories—especially your memories of feelings.
When it comes to living the way you want to live, you most likely want to feel a certain way. As it turns out, feeling the way we want to feel is at the root of our common desires for a better life.
Feeling the way you want to feel means getting control of your memories. This begins with noticing that you are living, for better or worse, in a memory.
Memories are the most amazing part of human existence. As we begin to build on a relationship with them, we find a new way of treating them. We do this with the intention to recover some abandoned real estate from deep inside our brains. This landscape includes those most desirable feeling-states such as elevated feelings of Appreciation, Empathy, Freedom and Abundance—a.k.a. Love and Happiness.
One practical way to access personal transformation and these feeling states is to separate yourself from your memories by treating them as an object. The Objective Perspective (OP), discussed in the Posts, Sensing Memories and The Objective Perspective at Work, thrives on using its own secret powers to pull us free of our attachment to memories. A still small voice within, it calls you to the home of your infinite possibilities to manifest your spiritual and personal transformation.
Of course, no viable entity wants to be treated as an object, and memories are no different. They are probably letting you know that at this very moment!
Memories oppose being objectified. My own memories fight against me as I write these very words.
Memories often get described as emotional baggage. Is it possible to get to that place where you feel today the way you want to feel tomorrow without having to unpack those bags? Yes. And. No.
Takeaway: Break Past the Past.
Sometimes our memories serve us well, and sometimes they make life a horror show. By objectifying them, noticing them, and calling them out for what they are, you improve at using your memories to get the life you want. Your body, mind, and memory work together this way and you, reader, the one who hears the voices of your memories, have your work cut out for you when managing what I call the body-mind-memory. It begins with catching yourself thinking and remembering. To be able to think in response to your memory: “Hey, that’s my body-mind-memory at work,” is positively liberating.
Blessing: May you fearlessly appreciate your memories so they may thank you and no longer fight with you.
Daily Action: Write out a memory of a time of elevated feelings. Sit with yourself and conjure this feeling right now. See how long you can hold that feeling
Conversation Kick-Around: If emotional baggage is coming between you and feeling the way you want to feel, what can you do with it?
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